Canstralian

I wish I could blog more. Seriously, it seems every post has a good thing then a bad thing, or just a bad thing... I seem a lot more negative than I feel I am. Well, this post will be the same. But in future, I'll try to post the happy things when they happen so they are not glossed over.

Home - Is great! I love it. I feel so much better now we're out. So domesticated. The first few days felt like we were just little kids playing house, but now the routine is smooth and comforting. I've been much happier with the world at large and don't hate Canada half as much since we moved out.

Trust... is another thing. Aside from everything GREAT about our relationship there's one thing that sours it all. I'll call this person "F" because they don't diserve a name. So F was a bed buddy of Obi before Obi and I met in person, and a year ago I noted she still flirts just as heavily with him as if he were single, yet she knows about me and our relationship. Obi doesn't flirt back (at least in the text convos, over the phone I can't be certain) but he doesn't stop her either. Kind of leading her on in a way. Nothing in his manerisums leads me to believe she is just another friend, which is suspicious in itself. So, I told him to firmly tell her to stop - as he had done when I'd admitted some of my old friends (who I have no sexual history with) flirt with me on occasion. Well, I got my friends to stop, and nearly a year later I find out that he didn't bother to set her straight - AND is sharing intimate details about our sex life with  her. So I'm hurt and angry. I tell him again to stop being gutless and make her stop, and to have some damn respect for me and our relationship. All he said in reply was "ok".

I also wrote him a letter telling him I can't life a life of suspicion - I need to be able to trust him without wondering. I don't mind if he shares really juicy stuff with his best mate (Someone I've met and respect) but random ex bed buddies who I have not met are another matter.
I asked him to find a suitable compromise because all I want to do is ask him to cut contact with F completely, but at the same time I don't want to be the type of woman that chooses her partners friends.

And besides, if I did ask that, he'd refuse. And then the ball would be back in my court...

Now I wait. Will he write back? Will he bring it up in conversation? Will he just stay silent and hope I back down? I hate wondering.

There should be an unspoken law that states that when a relationship is started all bed buddies must be lost contact with until that relationship comes to an end. *sigh*